Here are a few tips to mending your broken heart to help you get back into the dating scene.
While a bottle of red wine and a few nights home alone on the couch may seem like the only possible way to get over a relationship, I am here to tell you that, in fact, it’s not.
Things may seem hard, but there is only one way to get over someone and that is to get over them.
Here are a few tips to mending your broken heart to help you get back into the dating scene.
Take your time
Give yourself time to heal and don’t jump straight into something. Instead, spend time with your close friends to help take you mind off things. The first week post-breakup should be spent with a close friend, drinking more than you know you should, bawling like a banshee and not giving a damn what anyone thinks,’ Paula, 24.
Banish the ex
Don’t let craziness get the better of you. Texting, leaving notes on their car or walking past their work in hope that you will accidentally bump into them are all signs of being a stalker and this will only make things worse. Instead, cut all ties off and stay away. The less you see him or her the less you will think about them.
Be kind to yourself
You’ve just been through a rough time, so treat yourself to something special. Buy a new outfit, get a massage or even take a weekend away with some mates, to help get your mind off things.
Wait and see
If you stumble across a new love interest, don’t be fooled into thinking that he or she is Mr. Right. While you may think that they are fantastic because they are the complete opposite of your ex, keep in mind that they have their quirks and faults too.
Fess up
Once you get into the swing of dating again, leave all the details of your ex behind and definitely don’t bring them out at dinner. Ranting on about your ex’s bad habits and intimate details will only reflect badly on you. Simply leave it at ‘it was a tough break up and I’m still a little fragile’.
Don’t over-share
While a sympathetic ear is always attractive after a recent break up, don’t turn it into a borderline counseling session. Yes you may be a little emotional and the feelings that you are having may be overwhelming, but don’t make your date sit through My Feelings volumes one, two and three.
It takes time to get back into the swing of dating and while the road to love is scattered with tears and tissues, just remember that your strength, determination (and sense of humour) will get you through it all.
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